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This, believe it or don't, is pretty close to my actual body shape.

For a very long time, I have been disgusted that I look like that...shapeless and unappealing. But I had another gander at the Willendorf Venus after something
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Associated with the Earth Mother or Mother Goddess, she's also associated with fertility, which naturally leads to sexuality. I get the impression from what I've read, that having meat on your bones for a woman in the Paleolithic Era is akin to being a Sumo wrestler in Japan today, that the extra pounds are to be revered and not reviled.
It's only since Twiggy that women as big around as a pencil have been considered the ideal beauty. No one wants to discuss Marilyn Monroe's dress size (a 16) when observing her sexual appeal. To do so might throw the entire 'size 2 perfection' into the garbage bin.
Dammit, I'm not a size 2. I never have been. I've always had hips and tits. I'm not the same size I was in highschool, and it's time I stopped longing to be that size again. It makes me even more depressed to think like that. I can still go out and buy clothes that are incredibly sexy on my body shape!
But you know what? If I can get back into the jeans I was wearing before I got pregnant, I'll be very happy indeed.
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Date: 2005-01-19 01:19 am (UTC)it's a pretty cool message - no matter what size and shape you are, you can always wear clothes that flatter your body type.
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Date: 2005-01-19 02:45 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-01-19 01:36 am (UTC)Have you ever noticed that when people write erotica, even if they're describing a thin woman, they don't talk about her clean lines and sharp angles? They talk about curves and hips and tits and butts and all of the things that people associate with the erotic -- with sexiness, with plush luxuriousness, with decadence. This isn't to say that thin women can't be sexy -- everyone can be sexy in their own way. However, I think that even now, there are more people who appreciate curves than we openly admit.
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Date: 2005-01-19 02:55 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-01-19 02:28 am (UTC)The most beautiful person can become very ugly once their personality shines through.
The unfortunate part about body image is that you can have everyone in the world tell you that you are a beautiful woman, but what matters is what you believe.
Glad to see your opinion is starting to come around :)
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Date: 2005-01-19 02:58 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-01-19 06:38 am (UTC)It's hard to cuddle a twig.
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Date: 2005-01-19 07:36 pm (UTC)I, personally, am not aroused by "larger" women [if they outweigh me, twig that I am, then they'll win the wrestling matches or something... *heh*] BUT I have seen some rubinesque beauties, some curvy BBWs who are just gorgeous and sexy. It's in the clothing [suited to the body], the carriage, the eyes... sexy is more than just a low body fat percentage *pfeh*
In the 'old country' big was sexy because big meant you could carry children and birth them more easily. Big meant you ate well and THAT meant you were wealthy. Big meant you didn't work manual labour daily and THAT meant you were a mother, a home maker, everything a woman should be.
The whole ghetto booty thing STILL points at big...
And it's not just the outside... it's the entire package. Inside, outside, all sides and facets that make someone beautiful *nod*
Note that you DO have a husband who loves and adores you, non? Score a big one for you over single twigwomen.
And no, it's not a bad thing to look like a goddess... it's damned classic, it is *nod*