It's now Easter weekend. We aren't going to see family this weekend, as I have no idea what my in-laws want (they haven't said, and I don't care to ask, then again, nor has their son, so there is that), and we're going to my mom's next weekend. And all of that is fine by me.
What is NOT fine by me is the refusal of my mother-in-law to show my kid some basic fucking respect.
One of my kid's autistic quirks is that he won't eat anything with a face. So, no giant lollipops wrapped in plastic with a printed face on the wrapper, no gummy eyes at Hallowe'en, and no chocolate Easter bunnies. He's been like this for, oh, TWELVE YEARS NOW. It's not a secret, he's not doing it for attention or to make anyone upset. It bothers him to have treats with faces, so we go through his Hallowe'en candy after Trick-or-Treating, asking him what he can and cannot eat. It's not hard. It's really not.
My mom, as an example, gives him Doritos and blueberries instead of chocolate. My MIL? Jesus Fucking Christ on a Crutch, that woman.
Here's a text exchange between the spouse and his mum (the numbers are a reference to Wordle):
MIL: But I'm doing better at the scrabble games. Took me 6 again today. Have a bunny here for Declan when we see him
Paul: 4 for me. And Declan won't eat anything with a face
MIL: So cut the head off
(Paul has yet to respond.)
I DON'T EVEN KNOW ANYMORE.
And yes, she's old. And yes, she's forgotten that my kid is autistic. But the number of times we've had to tell her that Declan won't eat anything with a face? I HAVE LOST COUNT.
I'm so angry over this. This is not okay, nor is telling my kid that nanny is old and doesn't know any better. His grandma, my mom, is also old, AND DOES KNOW BETTER. I hate watching my kid get served a shit sandwich with the expectation that he be grateful. Should he ever decide that he doesn't want to deal with it anymore and not see them, then I will support his choice.
What is NOT fine by me is the refusal of my mother-in-law to show my kid some basic fucking respect.
One of my kid's autistic quirks is that he won't eat anything with a face. So, no giant lollipops wrapped in plastic with a printed face on the wrapper, no gummy eyes at Hallowe'en, and no chocolate Easter bunnies. He's been like this for, oh, TWELVE YEARS NOW. It's not a secret, he's not doing it for attention or to make anyone upset. It bothers him to have treats with faces, so we go through his Hallowe'en candy after Trick-or-Treating, asking him what he can and cannot eat. It's not hard. It's really not.
My mom, as an example, gives him Doritos and blueberries instead of chocolate. My MIL? Jesus Fucking Christ on a Crutch, that woman.
Here's a text exchange between the spouse and his mum (the numbers are a reference to Wordle):
MIL: But I'm doing better at the scrabble games. Took me 6 again today. Have a bunny here for Declan when we see him
Paul: 4 for me. And Declan won't eat anything with a face
MIL: So cut the head off
(Paul has yet to respond.)
I DON'T EVEN KNOW ANYMORE.
And yes, she's old. And yes, she's forgotten that my kid is autistic. But the number of times we've had to tell her that Declan won't eat anything with a face? I HAVE LOST COUNT.
I'm so angry over this. This is not okay, nor is telling my kid that nanny is old and doesn't know any better. His grandma, my mom, is also old, AND DOES KNOW BETTER. I hate watching my kid get served a shit sandwich with the expectation that he be grateful. Should he ever decide that he doesn't want to deal with it anymore and not see them, then I will support his choice.
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